Book Review: How to Read People Like A Book by Murray Oxman

I usually refrain myself from reading this kind of book, the kind that makes life and people seem so not right and it only seems that I just need to care only about myself. I still have about 16 pages left to read but can't fight the urge to start writing how I feel about this book.

Does this book change my view about psychology book? Well, sadly not much. I still think that this book (and the kinds) is not my cup of tea. Can we really read people like book? Are people that simple to be read? I still doubt these. After reading this book (though still having 16 pages left to read), I can conclude that the writer suggests us to not feel anything or to easily judge people from what the eyes can see; we can't feel bad if someone deceives us ("How about not feeling bad, and just not do whatever it was again?") and if someone doesn't look you in the eyes when both of you are conversing, then he is a dishonest person ("Honest people do not avoid eye contact."). Yes, at some point we have to stop from feeling bad if people do us wrong. Yes, some people don't look you in the eyes because they might be plotting something and don't want you to trace it from their eyes. But to just claim people who avoid eye contact are dishonest is just too much. Can't you even consider that they are just shy or maybe don't have much self-confidence? Have you not ever encountered anyone who can look you straight in the eyes and shamelessly tell lies to you? So, I guess people are not books after all.

I can agree to very few points that the writer throws in but I disagree to most of them.

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