I don't know why but quite a number of my friends willingly open up to me about their love relationship without me asking. Some are married while others are not.
To the friends who are married, I usually just listen to their stories. I don't give opinions. I just listen. Maybe because they are normal marriage problems and do not involve any kind of abuse that requires my intervention. And I do not want to cause more issues in their marriage just because I give my two cents in that matter.
However, it is a bit different with my unmarried friends who share their stories and hope for my advice in return. The problems are mostly about how the men treat them badly but they still choose to stay because of ... love. Truth be told, I don't really like to get involved in this kind of relationship. But thinking that my friends are in need of me, I try to be there for them. I might be quietly listening most of the time but my heart hurts and my inner voice keeps asking questions to my friend as if they can hear it.
"How can you let this man to treat you this way?"
"Why of all the people you choose this man?"
I try not to let my inner voice take over my physical voice. But sometimes, overwhelmed by the questions and my anger towards the men and also them, I blurt out the question, "Why this man?". Because I can't accept the fact that the friends that I love and look up dearly, ones that I treat with nothing but respect, are being treated with no respect that she now has no respect for herself.
You can tell me I don't know love. Yes, to some extent I don't know much about love. But if love is what you do now, then I'm glad to not have known love.
Get your self-respect back and only then we can talk about love.
To the friends who are married, I usually just listen to their stories. I don't give opinions. I just listen. Maybe because they are normal marriage problems and do not involve any kind of abuse that requires my intervention. And I do not want to cause more issues in their marriage just because I give my two cents in that matter.
However, it is a bit different with my unmarried friends who share their stories and hope for my advice in return. The problems are mostly about how the men treat them badly but they still choose to stay because of ... love. Truth be told, I don't really like to get involved in this kind of relationship. But thinking that my friends are in need of me, I try to be there for them. I might be quietly listening most of the time but my heart hurts and my inner voice keeps asking questions to my friend as if they can hear it.
"How can you let this man to treat you this way?"
"Why of all the people you choose this man?"
I try not to let my inner voice take over my physical voice. But sometimes, overwhelmed by the questions and my anger towards the men and also them, I blurt out the question, "Why this man?". Because I can't accept the fact that the friends that I love and look up dearly, ones that I treat with nothing but respect, are being treated with no respect that she now has no respect for herself.
You can tell me I don't know love. Yes, to some extent I don't know much about love. But if love is what you do now, then I'm glad to not have known love.
Get your self-respect back and only then we can talk about love.
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